…I sometimes ask myself what it is that keeps me believing in a “great” love. I still do, despite my own “romantic history” and its string of “lessons” ( nice euphemistic way of saying failures isn’t it?) I do know that “great” anything usually come at a “great” price (cost) but to me the cost underscores its value to me.
To love and be loved for oneself. By one other person who basks in the glow of the love and caring you pour onto and into them – two human vessels continually refilling the other until both overflow and bring light to everyone around them.
Interesting concept. Sounds simple but is so hard to find and live. You see, it takes two – one special other. I have not given up. I cannot and will not. I believe I was born with this and along this life’s journey the right person with the same understanding and wants and needs which mirror my own, will be there. I believe recognition will be instant; like a quiet sigh silently in my soul that lights that one person.
I do believe in love, in the warmth and the passion that curls your toes and sticks with you through thick or thin, passes every test and endures. The kind of love that has you focus on another soul and turn body and mind and soul towards them….. the first thought on waking, the last thought before sleep claims you, the “I can’t bear to be anywhere else” kind of love. The kind of love that lasts a lifetime and beyond.
I can tell you from personal experience, that anything less will not survive an attempt at living a life. Second best or “close” is NOT good enough. My grandma always said: “Don’t marry the one you CAN live with, marry the one you CANNOT live without.” My journey through life thus far is littered with a handful of attempts at “CAN live with” and all with disastrous and painful endings.
Trust me – DON’T settle for less; it is better to live your life alone than with the wrong person.
When life creates a vacuum by emptying out what is toxic – even persons and a relationship that has become a habit, it creates as itself an emptiness which life delights in filling.
Initially it is hard to face, to break old habits and force yourself to take one step after another into life and living, but it is well worth it. LIFE itself is a reward and the people who walk with you are true Jewels.
I am currently on just such a journey. You are my jewels.
It is the kind of love that comes with me on every level, as a parent, as a lover, as a friend.