In your life, what is the balance between “yes” and “no”?
“In the space between yes and no, there’s a lifetime. It’s the difference between the path you walk and the one you leave behind; it’s the gap between who you thought you could be and who you really are; its the legroom for the lies you’ll tell yourself in the future.” ~ Jodi Picoult.
How do you use Yes and NO???
They are powerful words and concepts. They can be a gateway into or out of. They can be a wall to hide behind. It all depends on which you choose and where the choices begin. And who prompts the choices.
- Are you comfortable saying “No?”.
- Do you feel you HAVE to say “Yes”, regardless of what you think and feel?
- Are you a people pleaser?
Have you stopped and thought about WHY you feel you have to say “yes” when every instincts screams NOOOOOOOOoooooo inside? Somehow that yes comes out and a well of twisting resentment starts to build inside of you.
You have to practice saying NO when that is your intent.
You have permission to say no whenever you like, however you like, in whatever kind of voice you like, without feeling like only Mean Girls Say No and Nice Girls Say Yes. That’s bull. Yes and No have equal weighting – what’s important is if you use them when they are the best thing for you, not out of fear, obligation or guilt.